And sometimes it’s not from snooping or being devious; sometimes it just happens. Here are a few examples of how/when it can happen and how to handle it like a rational human being.
You’re just seeing what he’s doing online and that information is freely available to the world.
Your motivations for checking up on this are worth looking at, though, because it gives me the feeling that either something inside you feels like you don’t quite trust this guy or that you don’t trust the relationship you’re in to have trust as a quality (and so you’re always checking and testing because you don’t have that trust to begin with…
It’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but I want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about?
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?
Just because he’s online doesn’t mean he’s dating anyone else. xo Sandy What’s the nice way to say- so if you like me (only) so much, what are you doing on our time?
But you do need to be sure you’re on the same page in order for you to feel valued.
I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).
This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.
The best thing to do if you’re questioning the status of your relationship and why his online dating profile is still active is to communicate with him!
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First, rest assured that at the start of a relationship, many people keep their profiles open and check incoming emails. You don’t know what it means until you check in with him.