While I did say approach anxiety is completely normal, its a also completely irrational and it’s important to become mindful of that 1st and foremost.
Derek Cajun and I share some of our approaches to anxiety in this video.
Dealing with approach anxiety isn’t just for newbies – it’s also for more experienced guys who might not be pushing their skills as far as they could. It’s the feeling our bodies give us when we take risks.
It’s completely understandable seeing that it’s only week two and the guys who are in this current cycle like all my previous students are new to the dating game.
Of course and without a doubt the guys in the class come from different backgrounds and have a varied amount of life experiences but one thing they all have in common is the struggle of being stuck in their dating lives.
” “Hey Rob, how do I approach the group if there is a guy in it?
” “Hey Rob, how should I approach a group if the group of girls is sitting down?The questions I listed above aren’t meant to belittle my students or for me to vent as a coach.The questions above as you notice have similar variations and tones to it.You get nervous and your brain finds a million reasons not to do whatever it thinks is “risky.” But, it doesn’t have to be like this.Remember when you were young, before society taught you to follow the pack, keep your head down, and play by all the rules.While the threats aren’t physical, our brains can’t distinguish between a physical and psychological threat. A lot of approach anxiety is rooted in trying to protect ourselves from the emotional threat of rejection and social embarrassment.