If I'm in an exclusive relationship, I can lie on the couch while she does stuff with her family.If I'm committed, I'm doing that stuff with her family.Our theory on commitment was that it evolves slowly, long after exclusivity.
Here are 17 ways to tell if you’re exclusive without having to ask. If your plans regularly include socializing with their friends and co-workers, it’s a terrific sign that you’re exclusive. He refers to relationship as “we” when talking about future plans. Most people don’t say “I love you” until they really mean it. When he doesn’t look at you as temporary, he’ll let you know if his plans include possibly living together, marriage, and will want to make sure you know that you’ll be together for events and holidays months down the line. Your Facebook page includes photos of the two of you. When either of you hears from an ex and it makes you uncomfortable, you’ll both realize you’re not open to the possibilities with them and won’t want to lose what you’ve got. If the two of you hold hands in public, even in front of business associates and family, signs of affection will show the world you’re taken. If he’s making plans with you for his birthday and Valentine’s Day, which are important days for women, you’ll know there isn’t anyone else but you. If you’re under the weather and this person at your side with chicken soup, flowers, and would rather nurse you back to health than hang out with their friends, it’s their way of saying that you’re a keeper. There’s no way he’d want another love interest noticing your presence in his home. He lets his ex know he’s in a serious relationship.
When couples start to talk about vacations, holiday plans, or even booking theatre tickets months out and he says, “We should go to this,” then you’ll know you’re more than just a plus one for an office party. Sure some people easily say “I love you” for sex, but if you’re together five or more nights a week, talk and text every day, and they profess their love for you, chances are they mean it. He brags about you and introduces you to his female friends. When you’re in an exclusive relationship, just being together cuddling, watching television, or spooning at night shows how comfortable he is in having you in his life. While some people aren’t quick to change their relationship status until they’re engaged or married, if their Facebook page includes multiple photos of the two of you embraced as a couple, it sends a message to friends and others that they are taken and proud of it. Rather than being sneaky about it, your guy will feel comfortable enough in your relationship to tell you about it, rather than sneaking into another room to respond to the text. While some people make clean breaks with their ex, others still have occasional contact.
In order to facilitate emotional bonding, to determine whether they are compatible for a romantic relationship, both boy and girl agree to be sexually exclusive.
The sexual exclusivity is essential because interactions with other people are otherwise going to complicate things emotionally – and it’s to build an initial trust period.
He tells me to please be patient, that he’s never been with a woman like me, one who trusts and loves unconditionally and makes him feel good when he’s with me, yet he says he’s not with me with the whole girlfriend/boyfriend thing!
I don’t know if I should wait and see, since what we have is basically the committed relationship – until he made the comment that I m not his girlfriend, everything was great. Even his friends address me as his girlfriend and he doesn’t correct them, so why can’t he say the words to me? –Kris If he’s acting like a boyfriend, what’s the harm of calling you his girlfriend? And I can understand why it’s mystifying and why you’d be tempted to run.We have seen each other several times and have had a great time.We have slept together and discussed the fact that both of us like each other a lot.The other day my sister and her husband (Jake) and I werediscussing "exclusive" versus "committed."Of course, we guys had a different opinion than my sister.My little sister took the stance that exclusivity and commitment were the same.Once both parties are satisfied that: The relationship can then move into the ‘formal relationship’ territory.