These kind of events highlight the distinct gender rules and contradictions that women are supposed to follow in order to be desirable by men. But not too thin, of course, "only dogs like bones!
" She should be sexually available, but not a slut.
Last week, we learned that On Speed Dating.com, a site that organizes speed dating events, offers “Skinny Minny” speed dating for “women under size 8.” On their website, On Speed says “don’t worry about meeting a biggie-size chick 'down-sizing' to an 8 like when you're dating online.”Curiously, there are no similar size requirements for the men who are attending the event, nor are they required to provide any other information about their physical appearance.
Women who attend the event, White attended one of the Skinny Minny events in New York City and used a recorder hidden in a vintage fur muff to record the men she sat down with.
was called a creep because in his profile he wrote he will not “consider dating women who are over 30 and overweight.” “OK, so my sister messaged someone on an online dating site just to say hi ... “I was also specific about weight as I have never been attracted to big women.
“I was specific with age because I would like to start a family one day and, to be honest, I think that the necessary timeline before doing so is shortened/compressed with a lady over 30,” he wrote.
I’ve crushed out on plenty of fat people, and am totally on board with this ‘fat people being desirable’ thing, but there’s a lot about the fat acceptance movement that makes my vagina dry up. It’s not just fat acceptance, it’s any sort of movement designed to convince people they should find a type of person attractive.
I get that fat people got a lot of difficult societal pressures on them, and they have to like, deal with this somewhere and if fat acceptance helps that’s great. Yet, there is something just so unsexy about articles telling me fat people are sexy.
Our Ugly Dating is geared towards people who may feel unattractive or uncomfortable in their own skin and is designed to help them succeed in meeting others who value genuine personality over outer appearance. Because it is the complete opposite of what society teaches. All around us we see gorgeous people, on television, in movies and magazines. You must not think that you would only be happy with a superstar.
We see ugly people too, but they're not the main actors.
Studies show that thin women are more likely to be hired for jobs than fat women, and media representations of women don’t reflect the fact that the average dress size in the United States is a 14 — a completely average and reasonable size.
On Speed Dating defends its exclusion of women over size 10 by saying “We all have relationship 'deal-breakers,' and that does not make us shallow, we’re just single New Yorkers who know what we want and are attracted to.
One of the men quoted in White’s piece says that there’s nothing he hates more than sluts.