"We poured our resources into making a very small story very well-told.We’re not covering a lot of ground; it’s very simple.
He had just moved to Atlanta from Chicago and had this whole stereotypical macho thing about him.
We’d just met, so I can only imagine the infinite possibilities swirling in his head.
Hey guys so I wanted to do a video on being trans and dating.
When I was coming to grips with my identity I thought no one would love me because I was trans. But the right person came along who loves me for me and I just wanted to make a video from her perspective on what dating a trans person is like. What kind of questions do you have for my girlfriend!
He was an amateur MMA fighter, came from the hood — apparently a former gang member, as I learned later. We’re the dirty little secrets who get calls only after hours.
It wasn’t that he necessarily made me feel threatened, but I knew the statistics. No matter how beautiful, intelligent, or successful, we are the ones who have to settle for being nothing more than receptacles for men’s desires and insecurities. “I’m a transgender woman.” I emphasized the woman part.It’s a story of two couples who are just getting to know each other.That’s it.” What those couples discover is something no other production of this magnitude or quality has done before: explore what it's like to date a transgender woman.Despite one pervasive misconception that transgender people transition for the approval or acceptance of future sexual partners, when I transitioned there was nothing about the forthcoming experience that assured me I would be seen as desirable. But when you’re trans, it’s hard in a completely different way.I didn’t know if I’d ever have the chance to be loved. It’s all too easy to internalize the assumptions that we are rudimentary facsimiles of the people we actually want to be, or that we take on a lifestyle that’s all about mutilating our “God-given, natural” bodies.That didn’t stop the intense expression of confusion that spread across his face.“So you’re a man? “Do you know how lucky you are that I’m not, like, crazy?